Monday, May 18, 2015

Blog Tour: Review + Giveaway | Love and Miss Communication by Elyssa Friedland

Love and Miss Communication by Elyssa Friedland
Pulished by William Morrow & Company
Publish Date: May 12, 2015
Source: Publisher
Find It: Goodreads / Amazon 

This unforgettable debut novel asks us to look up from our screens and out at the world...and to imagine what life would be like with no searches, no status updates, no texts, no Tweets, no pins, and no posts

Evie Rosen has had enough. She's tired of the partners at her law firm e-mailing her at all hours of the night. The thought of another online date makes her break out in a cold sweat. She's over the clever hashtags and the endless selfies. So when her career hits a surprising roadblock and her heart is crushed by Facebook, Evie decides it's time to put down her smartphone for good. (Beats stowing it in her underwear--she's done that too!)
And that's when she discovers a fresh start for real conversations, fewer distractions, and living in the moment, even if the moments are heartbreakingly difficult. Babies are born; marriages teeter; friendships are tested. Evie just may find love and a new direction when she least expects it, but she also learns that just because you unplug your phone doesn't mean you can unplug from life. (Goodreads)

Love and Miss Communication by Elyssa Friedland 

My Thoughts:  I had THE BEST time reading this book, cover to cover. I mean, I loved it

In the beginning of the book, Evie and her smartphone are like one entity. She arrives dreadfully late for a very special wedding because she can't put her phone down. She has a wardrobe + phone mishap because she has no pockets and she wants to literally have it on her person so she doesn't miss any calls or emails (big project at work!). She has big, huge problems at work because of Internet use. 

There are more Internet things, oh Evie. Oh, Evie. 

Evie realizes that she has a problem with the Internet when she spends a fair amount of time Googling her ex-boyfriend and his new wife. There are reasons for this, sure, but it's a new low for Evie. It's the last in a series of bad events that makes Evie realize that she needs to quit the Internet and she needs to do it now. It isn't healthy, it isn't helping her life, and she has to stop. So she does, cold turkey. No more email, no more Facebook or Twitter, no more Instagram. 

The results are amazing for her. 

Not everyone thinks so, though. People are confused and baffled, actually. While people are supportive to begin with, they wonder why she would want to give up such an easy means of communication. Everything on the Internet is so easy! OH BUT Evie feels so free without the weight of "likes" and "hearts" and photos of weddings and babies and status updates and emails and phone notifications every few seconds -- While Evie is out in the world living, away from screens of any type, her friends and family begin to get annoyed with an inability to reach her anytime they want. It causes a few problems here and there, but it totally changes Evie's life. 


The Evie in the beginning of Love and Miss Communication is an eye-opener. I personally am nowhere near that attached to my phone or the Internet, thank goodness. But Evie reminded me of so many people! I think that as readers, we are supposed to be a teensy bit annoyed with Evie's Internet habits in the beginning, and I think that this is the point: that people are so stuck to the Internet these days, so stuck to their smartphones, that we often miss big things. I was not annoyed with her, but I wondered when she would get a life! Evie missed a huge, massive, important part of a wedding and arrived late because she didn't put down her phone in order to arrive on time - the couple thought highly enough of her to have her make a speech at their reception, and she couldn't stop with the phone long enough to arrive on time? Yeah, that's how Evie is at the beginning. And there are a few little instances like this for Evie. Her character is set-up so perfectly at the beginning of this story. It's easy to see how she is ruled by social media and email. That being said, it is so easy to cheer for her when she makes her decision to stop it all. 

I love that Evie reached a point where this type of lifestyle betrayed her. Don't get me wrong - I don't want bad things to happen to characters, but it was only then that we were able to see the real Evie come out. And I loved her! Evie is a trained lawyer - an excellent one - and was heading for partnership at a great firm in New York City. After losing her job (over the Internet) and taking some time off before re-applying to more firms (not easy to re-apply without the Internet to submit resumes, see), Evie is able to explore her interests more fully. We are able to read about the Evie that enjoys this and that, and we can read about her strengths and weakness, her hopes and fears. Had the Internet/phone debacle not happened with Evie, none of this change would have occurred. I love this. 

I love that she is firm in her resolve to be without email and the Internet. I think her friends are a little bit amused by this to begin with, but as Evie continues to stick with her plan, they become annoyed - it is inconvenient to them to have to make calls, to not be able to send Evites to events, to not receive replies back when they send group emails. There are some tense moments between the friends when Evie misses some events because she isn't checking her emails - engagement announcements, baby announcements, BIG things. It makes Evie think: important things life events such as these - why are they being announced over the Internet? And still, no Internet for her. 

Through this time off from work and the Internet, Evie experiences a sort of "adult coming-of-age" or coming-of-adult-age, which is interesting I think because she it felt to me like she was growing up and finding herself for a second time. GOSH I LOVED THIS. I love the way Evie finds herself. She begins to see the way her family has viewed her - a busy career woman, phone stuck to her hand, never time for anyone, living a huge life in NYC, unapproachable - and she rectifies some things. She spends some precious time with her grandmother, who was diagnosed with breast cancer early in the book. Evie falls in love (without the Internet's help). The relationship progresses (without the Internet's help). She makes big decisions (without the Internet's help). She also realizes that there were things that she used the Internet for, and it was awfully handy at times. 

The romance in this book is lovely. Evie finds a man that she falls for organically, and this is really something special for her. Before, she would have Googled him and researched him, because that's what people that use online dating sites do. But Evie found this man by getting out there and meeting him face-to-face, so getting to know him was also done face-to-face. I LOVED IT. There were bumps in the road, sure, because she brought a little bit of baggage, but part of Evie's "adult coming-of-age" (is that even a thing?) is watching her learn to work it out without immediately emailing her friends for advice. 

I could talk about this book for ages and I wish I could discuss it with my friends. Friends, read this one please! Let's discuss. 

I loved this story. I loved the way Evie tuned the Internet out of her life. I saw a little bit of myself in Evie (not the overuse of online things, but the way she turned it off, and the way it annoyed people in her life, and the way she stuck to it anyway). I love the way Evie began to find herself again and to really like herself. This book was a great outside read for me, so great for sunshine and warm weather. It made me happy. I couldn't put it down. I recommend Love and Miss Communication by Elyssa Friedland for readers that enjoy women's fiction/chicklit-type stories and books about women that find themselves.


Love and Miss Communication will appeal to fans of:

Women's Fiction/Chick Lit
Romance: No triangle. Slow build. 

Love and Miss Communication by Elyssa Friedland 
is currently available for purchase.


Elyssa Friedland attended Yale University, where she served as managing editor of the Yale Daily News. She is a graduate of Columbia Law School and subsequently worked as an associate at a major firm. Prior to law school, Elyssa wrote for several publications, including Modern BrideNew York magazine, Columbia Journalism Review, CBS, Yale Alumni Magazine, and Your Prom. She grew up in New Jersey and currently lives in New York City with her husband and three young children.

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  1. Ok, I WANT to read this book!!! Seriously, there are some days I'd love to go off the grid and get rid of all my social media and Internet stuff. I think we all feel that way sometimes, but to actually follow through with it would be fantastic. I'm glad this one was such a good read and that you enjoyed it so much!!

  2. How intriguing! I've actually been stepping back from the internet as often as possible these days, just because I want to really BE in the moment. I don't think I could give it up cold turkey though, since I generally communicate with family and friends in the Philippines via the internet and social media - it's really helpful + convenient for that!

  3. I have been on the internet less and less since I realize how much time spent there can be put to productive use, walking in the fresh air, cooking great meals, traveling, and reading. Also since my hand surgery it has been very difficult to access the internet as much. Thanks for this lovely giveaway. saubleb(at)gmail(dot)com

  4. Wow this sounds like a such a fun read! I don't know how much I could cut out the internet in my own life but I do know that I love getting completely unplugged from time to time.

    Thanks for being a part of the tour!


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